Concerned about the future of HomeExchange

Hello everyone,

I was considering reaching out privately to the support team, but I decided it was much better to start a discussion here to check whether this is just happening to us or if you are experiencing it too.

As members of the platform for over 4 years, we have noticed that the quality of our guests has been steadily declining, to the point of exceeding the threshold of unacceptability. In our early years, we deeply appreciated the mutual respect between members, something that truly built a sense of community. For us, the opportunity to stay in another member’s home was something we celebrated with great appreciation and humility. Furthermore, in our exchanges, as a personal touch, we frequently offer a small gift from our region (olive oil, chocolate, handcrafted items, etc.).

During our first two years, the feeling of belonging was mutual: we offered warmth and hospitality, and the community responded in kind—with a few exceptions, as always happens. However, we regret to say that over the last two years, the experience has turned into quite the opposite. Currently, the trend is fairly negative, bordering on toxic.

Below, I am going to describe a series of situations that might resonate with you:

  • We have seen a significant increase in the number of guests who view the platform as a cheap alternative to avoid paying for accommodation. This is reflected in their behavior, even going so far as to use terms like “paying” with GP.

  • Some guests who manage to pass through our filter—even though we don’t make it easy, as we have always requested a video call before finalizing since our very first exchange, which isn’t that common—view their booking as if it were an Airbnb. They expect us, as hosts, to meet five-star quality standards as if they were paying customers.

  • On top of this, there is a total lack of respect for our house rules—in many cases, without even having read them (we know this because we include an “easter egg”). Some of those who do pass our filter make us feel uncomfortable once they arrive at the apartment, forcing us to constantly repeat things that should have been clear with just a little consideration. More importantly, this creates a tense atmosphere, because honestly, nobody likes having to play warden while on vacation.

  • Likewise, the massive amount of time we used to invest in responding to incoming requests with care has vanished. We have grown tired of generic copy-and-paste messages, as well as the numerous requests asking for things we explicitly clarify in our description, which they clearly haven’t read.

  • In some cases, we have had guests who, looking for any excuse right before the exchange, try to put us in a difficult situation to trigger HomeExchange’s guarantee policy—perhaps hoping to secure a nice vacation in a €105/night hotel instead of our “humble” apartment.

85 exchanges make for a lot of stories. Despite all this, we have managed to maintain a strong rating profile, though unfortunately, in many recent cases, this has required managing situations through pure hypocrisy.

After reflecting on these events, my personal view is that the platform—being a for-profit company managed by Tukazza! SAS, regardless of its B CORP certification—has drastically increased its efforts to grow the paying user base and boost profits for shareholders, thereby sacrificing quality. A textbook strategy.

What bothers me most on a personal level is that we—the members—and our homes are the true assets of the platform. The platform “creates” points out of thin air when you sign up so you can, at the very least, make your first trip at a fraction of the cost of traditional accommodation.

There are many ways to fix this. One would be to set higher barriers to entry, such as making it a mandatory requirement to host before being able to complete your first exchange as a guest. This simple measure would allow for far better quality control, though it would also dramatically limit revenue, which is why they aren’t interested.

I am opening this debate so you also have the opportunity to share your thoughts and potential solutions. I deeply value the community that has allowed me to explore the world like never before, and I want to protect its continuity against declining quality standards driven by financial interests—which, in the case of many community-driven platforms, marks the beginning of the end.

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First of all, thank you for sharing your thoughts so openly, and above all, thank you for your 4+ years and 85 exchanges with us. Long-standing members like you are truly the backbone of HomeExchange.

We couldn’t agree more with the heart of your message: HomeExchange is all about human connection, hospitality, and mutual respect.

Hearing that you’ve felt a shift in how some members behave is something we genuinely care about. While we want to open the doors of home swapping to more families worldwide, protecting our core values and the spirit of the community is always our top priority. We are constantly working behind the scenes—from how we welcome new members to how we educate them on community etiquette—to make sure everyone understands what it really means to share a home.

Constructive discussions like this are super valuable to keep our spirit strong. Thanks again for caring so deeply about the community.

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I agree. As a long time HE member I am sensing the same trends. We do not want to host guests against points but are getting requests for it all the time, and even members complaining that we only want to exchange, not host with points.

I like your suggestion about not giving new members points just for joining. The guestpoints are now more a type of cash, and getting them when signing up is like the “free rolls” you get when joining an online casino.

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I don’t have any experience yet with hosting, hence can’t confirm first hand, however the reason I’ve yet to host anyone after 1.5 years, is that except 1, every single request I’ve received has ignored the minimum number of nights I’ve stated.

I got tired of responding to each of them, hence my response rate has taken a hit. E.g. it’s easier to let the auto-decline do its thing after 4 days than rejecting yet another request I can’t/won’t host anyway. And the only request that did honour my min. number of days proposed more people to stay in my apartment than I have beds for. And the number of beds is stated as well in my description.

In addition, of the requests I’ve received, I’ve had e.g. a father looking for his student age son and his buddies to stay at my place last minute (no, thank you), as well as families with young children (my listing makes it clear to be mindful of the neighbours wrt noise due to this being an old apartment).

All in all, after 1.5 years I’ve not once yet had someone stay in my house via HE.

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Hello Bluehorse

For the minimum if nights which is 3 for me, the problem has been solved in writing at the very start of the listing :
“The minimum stay is 3 nights. It is possible to stay for 1 or 2 nights for X GP.”

Now i receive requests with the good number of nights or requests from people wishing to stay 2 nights (generally a weekend) and willing to give more points.
I charge NO fee.
So it is a win-win exchange.

On the other hand, families is the big segment on HE.
If you refuse all the families thinking they are all noisy, I don’t think that’s actually the case I don’t think that’s actually the case

Hopefully, my grown up child has been received by some HE hosts who wrote a review showing that the appartment was clean and everything went well.
Now a 10 months reciprocical exchange is planned for my big baby in a foreign country.
This is the magic of HE.
Trust and respect.

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Thank you all for your own views on the story. As @Nathalie1 just mentioned, trust and respect is the go-to statement I’d like to highlight, however for the sake of a healthy community, we must make our way to be sure that everyone follows that. And there’s just two ways of doing so: policing or enforcing.

While none of them are a one-choice option, I believe that a mix of them would deliver great results. Regarding your case @Bluehorse, enforcing is the way to go, if the platform did allow an option to prevent receiving requests that do not meet the minimum criteria, then you’d no longer receive them.

Right now the general trend is about mass-sending the same request to everyone. Enforcing a rate limiter on the number of requests that can be sent per hour, and / or implementing an algorithm that compares the requests to trigger an alert when the content is not changing would help stop mass spamming.

Yet, the key is to accomplish a community that cares about themselves, if you follow the principles of trust and respect, you won’t be mass spamming hosts, you’d be reading with care each of the conditions before even sending a request, you’d be writing a personalized message.

Policing could help on this, with a way for hosts to provide feedback on the reasons after they are declining. A sufficient signal from different hosts who report would be enough to send a warning to the member to stop and rethink, facing temporary account suspension.

Answering to you individually @Kirsten-Cph, yes I do agree points have enabled a transactional mindset, however they aren’t necessarily a bad thing, it’s just something that needs to be won, and that happens when you genuinely give back to the community, not when you pay for signup.

Whatsoever, it’s on the hand of the platform to make any of these possible. For your information, I shared this same concern in the forums of the other countries where HomeExchange is present as well, with the goal of creating a unified voice. I invite you to take a look at the opinions of other users to find some inspiration—some interesting proposals have come up:

In these forums, on the other hand, there are no responses from community members yet:

mrpigu

I mainly do reciprocical exchanges with people who don’t charge any fee.
The mindset is much nicer than with people who pay in GPs and ask money to host you.

For non simultaneous exchanges of one or 2 years of delay (for exemple you come to my home this summer and i come to your home in winter), this long communication helps to build a relationship.

This filter helps me to be protected against members who behave like clients or worse like impolite clients.
It happened with a few guests who came for GPs.
Not a disaster but not friendly. Consummers more than travellers.
Now i refuse the GP requests if , on their side, there are cleaning fees.
They would come to my home for free and earn some money with their guests!
How unfair!
And i tell them why their request is refused.
They replied that it is because cleaning is a big work for them (because for me , this is no work :face_with_symbols_on_mouth:).

On the whole, the experience stay positive because i do reciprocical exchanges and , to speak the truth , i still contribute to educate newbies because in general they are willing to learn.
The few others (2 or 3) are treated like clients (i rent on other websites and know how manage them).

I only used GuestPoints.

For me, it was important to host several exchanges first and build up good reviews before asking to stay in someone else’s home. Those reviews create trust.

I really like the GuestPoints system, but I think new members receive too many points just for signing up. If I remember correctly, I received around 750 GP for completing my listing, 500 GP for paying the annual membership, plus referral points. That is enough to stay several nights without ever hosting anyone. A member could simply use those points and then leave the platform, having only paid the membership fee.

I think new members should be required to complete at least one exchange as a host before they can use GuestPoints as a guest. I also think the initial GuestPoints bonus should be reduced.

I’m now in my second year with HomeExchange and really enjoy being both a host and a guest.

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I totally agree with you @Andre-NOR !

After 16 years and 70 exchanges (not reflected on my profile due to the sale), I just had my first guest that acted as though he were in a rental. When the washer wasn’t working and I was arranging for repairs he ststed “ I didn’t come here to deal with appliance repairs”. Apparently he also used the AC 24/7 for two weeks, I can only imagine our bill. I have notes everywhere if one reads them to please conserve as the electricity is very expensive. I will narrow once again who will be accepted in our home. Right now I have an issue with HE not responding to return my GP for a stay beginning today. First the owner wanted to be in the house for two days to bake pies, then he was in an accident messaging from the hospital that we may need to share the house with him. I canceled and found another , last minute stay, but I want my 1600 GP back.

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The staff is overwhelmed with a lot of cancellations during the whole summer with the wildfires in a lot of places and countries. The gp refunding can wait a little, you can understand that as an ambassador I guess :wink:

I think an auto responder is in order then, as I had no idea my request had even been received .

In theory there’s one if you use the contact form ? ( Not an email)

Yep used the form twice

Ok and did you check in your spams ?

Hi

I also agree. We have been members since 2018 with 25 successful exchanges. I have just had an exchange where a person was given our door code and entered our house before our guests arrived. When I noticed this on our Ring camera she said he was just dropping off food this was not the case as we saw the extra guest with a suitcase numerous times .This guest was never approved. The next day a gathering happened which was also never approved. I was very surprised at the response when I asked the guest about these concerns and she ignored what I said and just said she was a good Home Exchanger and weren’t changing anything. When I contacted a HE ambassador I was told our only option was to give the guest a poor review. The exchange was for 5 days and I was very frustrated that there wasn’t any consequence for breaking HE policies.

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Sure it’s not correct, but did you warn you have an outdoor camera ? You need to precise it into your listing and also warn the guest. See rules about cameras here : https://help.homeexchange.com/hc/en-us/articles/24226963654685-What-is-HomeExchange-s-policy-on-surveillance-cameras

This is a good point Etienne but you don’t hear what the host is saying.

This is not the guest complaining about an unlisted outdoor camera but a host complaining about extra guests.

It would be interesting to reply to her concerns.

@KCharles
HE ambassadors are useless for the breach of contract.
They can help to tell you how to change the dates of the exchange but not for taking actions.
Contact HE.
Tell them what you want. Make them leave now?
And you should list your outdoor camera because :

  • it is mandatory,
  • it limits to receive requests from people who plan to host uninvited guests.

Prepare your review. Objective and neutral with good points (cleanliness? Communication ?) and bad points (unauthorised guest?).
At least if can make an asset for negociating the withdrawal with the guest.

Make the difference between people who stayed in for a meal (family ? Friends?) and people who sleep in your home because these people must be registered in the exchange. Not the 1st ones who don’t sleep in.

Hi
I send information to all my guests stating that I have a Ring camera I also print out the information and leave it on the counter.I also spoke to the guest during the exchange and told her again that I had cameras and what I and my neighbors observed.She did not care it was like she knew that there wouldn’t be any consequences.This particular guest had good reviews which is why I chose her.

Be clear on the camera is the 1st step.
Now you have to decide of the conséquences.

  • Ask the extra guests to leave now?
  • Cancel the exchange and ask them to leave?
    HE can support if you have a clear request.