Frustrated host

Iā€™ve been a member of HE for 7 years and for the most part Iā€™ve truly enjoyed it.
But something has changed in the last 1-2 years, perhaps due to increase in membership. I live in a highly desirable destination (San Francisco) and until recently when I was able to respond positively to a message, weā€™d exchange a few emails answering questions, perhaps do a quick WhatsApp call, and the visit would get approved.
But recently each and every time I respond positively, the guest has already found another place. Messages, usually from Europe, tend to arrive in the middle of the night local time, and I respond as soon as I check my email in the morning, so within 2-6 hours after the message was sent. Yet, each time theyā€™ve already found a place. My home is attractive, and the cost of 130 GP is certainly reasonable for a couple or a single traveler. So the issue is not in my posting, nor in my response time. It seems that perhaps there are commercial interests, who pay someone to stay on top of early AM messages and respond as soon as they pop up.
I canā€™t think of any other explanation. Thoughts anyone?
Are people experiencing a similar trend elsewhere?
Can HE do anything about it?

Hi Micha! Iā€™m sorry to hear that youā€™ve had this experienceā€¦ I personally havenā€™t had this issue so Iā€™d be curious to hear what othersā€™ experiences with this are!

Maybe there are more members in your area now, so more ā€˜competitionā€™.

nothing to worry about. its just many other people around you,that may suit your guests more.Personally as a guest,i take my time to decide to which place ill go,maybe others finalise the same time!

Would be interesting to hear from more people, but to clarify my main point: only 3-4 hours after the message from the guest was sent, and when itā€™s just 9-10 AM local time, Iā€™m told on each occasion that the guest has already found another home. In the past year this has been constant.
I wonder if it turns out that very few properties are getting the bulk of hosting in San Francisco because a professional outfit has staff tasked with responding to HE queries immediately, even when they arrive in the early AM hours.

Probably you are receiving requests from members who have sent numerous requests in the previous days. It could happen that they receive a positive reply a couple of hours after they write to you.

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Home Exchange encourages people to send out many requests, itā€™s stated right on the contact screen that on average, it takes 10 requests to finalize an exchange. Unfortunately, a significant number of members simply do not reply to requests for an exchange, or take many days to respond. Therefore, it usually isnā€™t practical to only send one request at a time and wait for the other memberā€™s response before sending a request to another member.
I suspect that you have simply been unlucky to have received so many requests that are then withdrawn within a day.
Unless we are travelling and out of touch, we make an effort to respond within 24 hours of a request, and rarely encounter the problems that youā€™ve had.

I have no issue with sending out many requests ā€“ I do it myself. But I think you should encourage people not to do it automatically but to bother to take a minute and look at home descriptions - mine states clearly at the top a minimum number of days, and maximum number of guests, and I still get requests that obviously donā€™t qualify. I imagine thatā€™s one reason hosts donā€™t bother to respond (though I still do, within 12 hours).
As to your suggestion: ā€œI suspect that you have simply been unlucky to have received so many requests that are then withdrawn within a day.ā€
Having been a member for 7 years Iā€™ve seen the ebb and flow of requests. I wouldnā€™t have made my comment unless I noticed a pattern. I wish someone would contact me directly to discuss how we can verify this because if this pattern is real (and it can easily have monetary motives fueling it), it hurts not only a few members but the entire Home Exchange model. Itā€™d be easy to investigate by contacting a few guests.

The HE algorithm tries to please everyone. As a result we get several erroneous requests a week even though our home profile includes caring for a cat and states that the exchange be reciprocal for 3 weeks minimum.
Including cat care and 3 weeks of exchange time seems out of reach for the HE algorithm.
Perhaps folks do a reverse search and send a repeat request message to every home in the city of their choice.